Whosoever hasn’t experienced this, must be a living saint. Its so normal that things get out of our hands with fire-works taking place in form of nasty word exchanges. You may be just having a healthy discussion or a stating an opinion to a co-worker when suddenly things get serious. Verbal spats are exchanged. One thing leads to another, and it’s not long before things go out of control with bouts of anger and hatred for the other.
Understanding how to maintain composure is the need of the hour in this dynamic business environment. It is more valuable than personal development. Losing your cool in the workplace can be detrimental to your career and can put you instantly in the bad light. Management these days prefer people who are cool headed and agile.
Let’s talk about ways how you can combat such a situation and emerge a winner:
Instantly leave the conversation: It is much better to stay silent rather than repenting later for hurling abuses or nasty words. Speak gently with a cool head to acknowledge the other person of your retreat. But, don’t walk away in anger banging the door depicting that you lost it. Your timely exit puts a dignified end to your argument and shows that you value the other person and your peace more than your momentary anger.
Take a deep breath: How many times have we heard in movies about anger management – take a deep breathe, have a glass of water, count one to ten etc. These are not entirely bogus. It does help in distracting your mind from the unpleasant situation and get back your composure. After you’ve removed yourself from the ugly spat, allow yourself some fresh air with a walk. Try to meditate and re-align yourself.
Consider the root cause: It is very important to consider the nature of argument and the reason behind it. It may be the repercussion of a long subdue thought or could be due to some family stress etc. Give the other person a chance by understanding his perspective. If he’s wrong, forgive him and if he’s right, he just made you wiser.
Get started with other work/hobby: Sometimes, engaging yourself in a new work is the best remedy to regain composure. It’s been proven that high stress levels actually increase your work efficiency. Remember, the sledging of Andrew Flintoff and the 6 consecutive sixes of our own Yuvraj Singh! So, pressure or anger at times, boosts your productivity as well if channelized well.
Try to sort out things: It is for the best interest of you and the other person to make amends. No body enjoys the vicious spats and doesn’t want to land in the employer’s eyes for being a trouble monger. Though it is the hardest thing to do but it’s worth it. We usually feel to be victimized and strolled but eventually realize that we too played a part in it. Apologize for your behavior, discuss the issue coolly and take your relationship with your colleague forward.
If you ever land yourself in this precarious and undesirable position, realise the hurt that you bring to yourself and your reputation by being vexatious instead of accommodating. Getting into an argument is fairly easy but walking out of it is real tricky. They have fairly worked on me, hope they do on you as well! Happy reading!